Money Goes to the Heart of Things (e-Book)

Where do money conflicts in marriage come from? Why are these clashes often more intense than other ones? And why do money problems so often lead to divorce? In this book, seven couples talk candidly about their struggles with money and the upheavals it has caused in their relationship. Money is giving them trouble and they want to find out why. They hope to find better ways of dealing with it as well. This book is about the psychological impact of money on families and children. It shows how it felt to grow up with lots of money or with very little. It also makes clear how a child is affected when a father goes bankrupt or loses most of his business. These painful family circumstances in childhood left their mark on most of these partners and crop up again in marriage where they cause trouble. But as couples examine the past, they gain new perspectives on old problems and ultimately feel more in control. The stories the couples tell are fascinating and often surprising. They show how marital relationships develop over time, according to a six stage model, and what a mature relationship looks like. Using the innovative Self Confrontation Method (SCM) to get at the roots of their problems, partners gain profound insight into how the past affects their present and how to deal with it more effectively. Joan S. DeWalle, Ph.C., is a Counseling Psychologist and a licensed ZKM Consultant. Her counseling practice focuses on the emotional side of money. She also worked as a career counselor and as a researcher for several universities in the U.S. and in the Netherlands. Her previous books deal with the psychology of poverty, in the context of health and extension education. Presently she divides her time between the Netherlands and the Pacific Northwest.